Now we all hear the term "yummy mummy" being thrown around, I myself know I have used it! But something crossed my mind the other day.. what exactly is a yummy mummy? It's not a title, there's no certificate or award.... so what makes you "worthy" of being called a yummy mummy?
I sat down the other day and wanted to just have some tv on in the background, and I saw this programme listed called Yummy Mummies and reality crappy tv is a guilty pleasure of mine... so I thought I'd give it a go! It's like a "Real housewives" type of reality programme, following these well off pregnant ladies in Australia. And OMG.... literally everything is designer - even the baby dummies! It just felt like another world! One of the ladies even got a £150,000 Range Rover as a push present?! Whaaatttttt!! That's like a deposit for a house?!?! But why do these ladies get to be called yummy mummies... what makes them so "yummy"? Is it because they can afford everything? Is that implying to be a yummy mummy you have to have a perfect glamorous life? I can't deny the programme is entertaining, but it left me feeling upset I couldn't spoil and give my baby girl just that little bit more! And there was one part of the programme where a fellow pregnant women slated another women breastfeeding in public which angered me incredibly - kind of disappointing they aired this, as it makes publicly bashing a breastfeeding women seem like acceptable behaviour?! - NOT cool.
Anyway... The term "Yummy Mummy" used to be something so different to me before I was pregnant and became a mother. When I was a teen I was guilty of the first thing that used to come into my head was a glamorous women, wearing a lovely outfit, great hair and makeup, toned body, and a happy smiling baby! (I am genuinely ashamed I used to think that...) but where did this image come from? Was I influenced to think this? Why would I think that that's what a yummy mummy is?
On social media these days, you see many people comment on these super fit mums profiles with washboard abs and their designer handbags, calling them yummy mummies and dying to look that way... but why?! I have nothing against those mummies that have got their abs back and worked hard for their figures - you go ladies! But we shouldn't pressurise ourselves to all look that way and have that certain lifestyle! Being a mum is tough and a 24/7 job! Plus we all know by now that people only share the "good bits" of their life on social media platforms (such as Instagram).. I think that's why to me personally, it's important to keep it real!!
So.. I think it's time to change these perceptions of what is a yummy mummy - NOW!
You know what I say.. ALL mums are yummy mummies! And you know what makes you even yummier? Being devoted to loving and nurturing your baby!!
Now having been pregnant, struggling with a massive bump, stretch marks, pregnancy acne, horrific hormonal dandruff, postpartum loose skin, retained placenta and living 90% of my life in pjs and oversized sweaters (which may I add are most likely are covered in dribble/spew!) You know what I say.. that's what makes me a yummy mummy!! It's all part of the journey!! We don't have to have our shit together all the time - as you can clearly see I don't from my header photo on this blog post! Washing and cleaning EVERYWHERE!! But that's okay! And who cares if it's day 5 of dry shampoo and you are embracing the "mum bun" to a whole new level... (been there, done that haha!)
I now know the thing that makes me yummy, is my commitment to my little girl. The love I give her every minute of every day. How I still smile and play with her even if she's been nonstop crying and giving me headaches! The fact a poo exploding nappy is just something you get on with. The time and money I spend on her rather than myself.. that's what makes me a yummy mummy! Not designer clothes, not having perfect makeup, not having perfectly blow dried hair, going on fancy family holidays, and not having a perfect postpartum figure... there's no price on being a good mummy. There's no price tag for love.
My fellow mummies reading this...
You ARE a yummy mummy - poop, spew and dribble included. You are amazing. You are doing great! Love x
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