Over the weekend, Josh and I gathered both sides of our family together for our version of a baby shower... and called it our 'Baby Brunch!' The day completely exceeded all expectations and was filled with so much love and laughter, I was a bit of a hormonal emotional mess as I was just so happy!
I had decided from the moment I knew I was pregnant that I didn't want a typical baby shower. Stereotypically, it's the closest female friends and family of the 'mummy-to-be' that plans the day and gets all the women together to celebrate – so a pretty girly do! With the 'daddy-to-be' gate crashing a bit later on in the day during presents etc. Personally, it all sounds a bit cheesy and very Americanised to me.. as I know from talking to older generations that in the UK we just didn't really have baby showers and it has only really come across from the US and taken off recently!
For me, this typical 'girly shower' just wasn't going to work. For a start my best friend is currently in the Caribbean working till July, so to say I had my closest friends there would be a lie! Plus I'd want her to plan it! So that wouldn't have worked. Secondly, Josh and I have a lot of “couple friends”, and we just wouldn't invite one and not the other... so the typical girly day again just wouldn't work for us. So I saw this as my opportunity to make it a family affair and get both sides of our families together to celebrate! Neither Josh or I have large families, so it wasn't going to be a crazy big family reunion with hundreds of second-cousins once removed and all that complicated rubbish!! Just our nearest and dearest who are most important to us and therefore will be most important to our baby!! Just want to point out.. No offense what so ever to anyone who wants or has had a typical 'women-only' baby shower! If it works for you then great, but due to the reasons stated above it just wasn't going to work for me!!
After food we all headed back to our house for lots of prosecco (pretend non-alcoholic fizz for me!) and we were completely and utterly spoilt with gorgeous gifts for our baby girl! I never expected gifts really, my priority was just getting all the family together! Every single gift was so thoughtful and gorgeous! I was on a total hormonal overload and I teetered on the verge of tears literally opening every present. Then right at the end, sitting there looking at everything I just let the tears roll and cried with happiness! Which then resulted in everyone else in the room crying.. what an emotional soppy family we all are – ha!! We then all sat in the garden to make the most of the sunny weather, chatting away, over yet more drinks and a few sandwich nibbles!! My amazing and talented mummy, had even made me a gluten-free, beautiful cake for the day! She always made us the most incredible cakes when we were little for our birthdays, so it was no surprise when she rocked up a perfect shop-like cake!! It was almost too pretty to eat! (Thank you mummy!)
The day was just what I wanted.. actually it was better!! Everyone kept saying how much they really enjoyed themselves, which made it feel even more amazing! I have to admit... although my main priority was just getting the family together to celebrate us bringing a new family member into the world, I do feel like I had a proper baby shower!
Once our little one is born, we do plan on having a garden party to celebrate her arrival, but this time will be a friends only event to make up for the fact we made our Baby Brunch family only! So all our friends and their kids can come along, I guess we really got the best of both worlds here! Aren't you lucky my little tummy monster.. you're getting TWO parties to celebrate your life!?!
At the end of the day, I believe your baby shower should be whatever you want and whatever works best for you as parents-to-be! Be that a small gathering, or a massive party with hundreds, it's whatever best represents you as a couple with the people who love and care for you the most. Never EVER feel like you have to 'prove' yourself and have a massive party for the sake of society or social media!! It's your special time celebrating that blessing who is sitting in your tummy, kicking away and already loving you for giving them life!
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