Now we all hear the term "yummy mummy" being thrown around, I myself know I have used it! But something crossed my mind the other day.. what exactly is a yummy mummy? It's not a title, there's no certificate or award.... so what makes you "worthy" of being called a yummy mummy?
I sat down the other day and wanted to just have some tv on in the background, and I saw this programme listed called Yummy Mummies and reality crappy tv is a guilty pleasure of mine... so I thought I'd give it a go! It's like a "Real housewives" type of reality programme, following these well off pregnant ladies in Australia. And OMG.... literally everything is designer - even the baby dummies! It just felt like another world! One of the ladies even got a £150,000 Range Rover as a push present?! Whaaatttttt!! That's like a deposit for a house?!?! But why do these ladies get to be called yummy mummies... what makes them so "yummy"? Is it because they can afford everything? Is that implying to be a yummy mummy you have to have a perfect glamorous life? I can't deny the programme is entertaining, but it left me feeling upset I couldn't spoil and give my baby girl just that little bit more! And there was one part of the programme where a fellow pregnant women slated another women breastfeeding in public which angered me incredibly - kind of disappointing they aired this, as it makes publicly bashing a breastfeeding women seem like acceptable behaviour?! - NOT cool.
Anyway... The term "Yummy Mummy" used to be something so different to me before I was pregnant and became a mother. When I was a teen I was guilty of the first thing that used to come into my head was a glamorous women, wearing a lovely outfit, great hair and makeup, toned body, and a happy smiling baby! (I am genuinely ashamed I used to think that...) but where did this image come from? Was I influenced to think this? Why would I think that that's what a yummy mummy is?
On social media these days, you see many people comment on these super fit mums profiles with washboard abs and their designer handbags, calling them yummy mummies and dying to look that way... but why?! I have nothing against those mummies that have got their abs back and worked hard for their figures - you go ladies! But we shouldn't pressurise ourselves to all look that way and have that certain lifestyle! Being a mum is tough and a 24/7 job! Plus we all know by now that people only share the "good bits" of their life on social media platforms (such as Instagram).. I think that's why to me personally, it's important to keep it real!!
So.. I think it's time to change these perceptions of what is a yummy mummy - NOW!
You know what I say.. ALL mums are yummy mummies! And you know what makes you even yummier? Being devoted to loving and nurturing your baby!!
Now having been pregnant, struggling with a massive bump, stretch marks, pregnancy acne, horrific hormonal dandruff, postpartum loose skin, retained placenta and living 90% of my life in pjs and oversized sweaters (which may I add are most likely are covered in dribble/spew!) You know what I say.. that's what makes me a yummy mummy!! It's all part of the journey!! We don't have to have our shit together all the time - as you can clearly see I don't from my header photo on this blog post! Washing and cleaning EVERYWHERE!! But that's okay! And who cares if it's day 5 of dry shampoo and you are embracing the "mum bun" to a whole new level... (been there, done that haha!)
I now know the thing that makes me yummy, is my commitment to my little girl. The love I give her every minute of every day. How I still smile and play with her even if she's been nonstop crying and giving me headaches! The fact a poo exploding nappy is just something you get on with. The time and money I spend on her rather than myself.. that's what makes me a yummy mummy! Not designer clothes, not having perfect makeup, not having perfectly blow dried hair, going on fancy family holidays, and not having a perfect postpartum figure... there's no price on being a good mummy. There's no price tag for love.
My fellow mummies reading this...
You ARE a yummy mummy - poop, spew and dribble included. You are amazing. You are doing great! Love x
This post has been one I've wanted to do for ageessss now! (Actually even before Maddison was born!) However, I really struggled trying to get the nursery organised, despite the ridiculous amount of nesting I did! The first problem was I couldn't for the life of me decide what on earth I wanted to do! I couldn't decide on colours, layout, toys, pictures.. anything!! There are sooo many nursery "inspo" pages out there, and I loved bits from everything.. but they just wouldn't have worked together!! The second problem is that I wanted it to be practical! The last thing I wanted was to spend tons of money on a beautiful room that just didn't work with our day to day life and routine. I really do feel there is too much pressure and high expectations these days to make babies nurseries super picture perfect and "Pinterest worthy". Half the time the pretty stuff will just end up getting covered in poop/spew, and the bland neutral toys will never stimulate a baby for playtime!
Maddison's room is still primarily neutral with just a few splashes of pinks from decorations and then some colourful patterned toys! If like us you are planning on having more kids... we decided to keep all the furniture/main bits neutral and then just added bits of colour in, because if I had bought too much pink stuff, then we have a boy next, well that's even more money we'd have to spend re-buying everything not in pink!! I'd still really love to have some kind of wall art or pictures hanging up - but again I can't quite decide what I want exactly and I haven't seen anything that I've totally fallen in love with yet!
A lot of the toys or ornaments in her room were bits I used to have when I was little, which means the world to me! Much more sentimental than going out and buying ridiculous amount of new things. I think I also didn't want to go spending tons of money because we will hopefully be moving house in the next year and as she'll be getting bigger, so her room will have to change! I already had Maddison's bookcase (which used to be home to all my high heels when her room used to be my dressing room - sigh!) and she has a built in wardrobe, so it was just a matter of buying her changing table and cot! Both were bargains from Ikea! I couldn't for the life of me bare spending £300+ on a cot which she would only be using for the first year or so of her life!!
I think one of my most favourite parts of Maddison's room is her rose garland around the top of the canopy. It just looks so pretty and gives the room and nice touch of pink without being too overpowering (or tacky!) Again this was a total bargain... We got the white canopy from Ikea and then my sister HANDMADE the garland for me with individual roses and wire - thank you sissy!! So easy and much cheaper than buying it pre-made! Winning!
One of my main priorities was storage. I wanted to have all of Maddie's clothes and changing station organised and easily accessible, without having it look cluttered or like a bomb had just exploded! So I really do feel now I've had 12 weeks of getting used to life with a baby, I've worked out logistically what is best and where to keep everything.. (you should see the jumble under the crib! Such a good storage solution though!)
When Maddison turned around 4 weeks old, she was already taking so much in! So I deicded to get the playmat out for her, and she loved it! I never planned for it to live here in her room, but it gets so much use and isn't in the way of anything, so we just decided to keep it out! We also put a book of black and white patterns out down the side of it to help stimulate and entertain her! I have to say the playmat was one of my BEST purchases. Ours is from Mothecare, and it has a light up musical flower at the top of the arch - the music drives Josh crazy haha! But Maddison loves it!
My best tip and what I've learnt doing a babies room is... rather than splashing out the cash on big expensive pieces of furniture, try and save the money there so you are able to buy a few special more expensive little pieces that they can have for years to come and won't outgrow so quickly (or I can even keep to pass down to my grandchildren!)
Hope you liked having a peep into Maddison's nursery! If you have any recommendations of wall art for a babies room let me know! Or if you want to know where anything is from that I haven't labelled , also let me know! Either comment below or message me via the social page! Love x
So in my last blog post, I gave you all a detailed brief of Maddison's bedtime routine and general sleep pattern! As stated in that previous post, Maddie is a very chilled and sleepy baby... but only really at night! Our daytime nap routine is.. well as you probably guessed from the title.. there's no routine at all!! I swear in my last post I made myself sound like I totally had my shit together and I have everything perfectly timed and planned out. But I think the bedtime routine is the ONLY thing that I have properly sussed out! Being a mummy is like being back at school and I am literally discovering and learning so much every day as my baby girl grows and develops!
Despite her only being nearly 12 weeks old, I think we've experienced every possible nap scenario there is in that time! We've had days when Maddison has had one massive 4 hour nap, little scattered 30 minute power naps, 2 perfect 2 hour naps mid-morning and mid-afternoon, there has even been a few days when she literally wouldn't nap AT ALL!!
About 90% of the time, Maddison seems to get through the day with little power naps. She will only snooze for a maximum of 30 minutes at a time and there is ZERO pattern of when she may have these little naps at all! (Told you it's the complete opposite to nighttime haha!) Sometimes these naps will happen post-feed on the boob while she's in my arms, she may just dose off in the bouncer, or get bored on her playmat and drop off! But like I said, it doesn't last for long... by the time I've sat down or just started to get a job done around the house.. she's awake again! I feel like I'm living in a pigsty at the minute and can never fully catch up with everything! Please say you can relate mamas?!
*Cue the "mum police" who will tell me it's my fault because she sleeps so much at night..*
Well you know what, I'd rather have a good nights sleep and then be busy during the day keeping my girl entertained in-between her power naps.. then be constantly feeling like a walking zombie surviving on 2-4 hours sleep at a time for the full 24 hours of a day! I am so grateful my baby girl is a sleeper and already has a similar sleep pattern to an adult! (Seriously, I take my hat off to those mums struggling with a little one that never sleeps! - sending love to you mamas!!) If sleeping lots at night and barely napping in the day is what Maddison is happiest doing, then that's what I will do! During the day I go with the flow, let her nap when she wants, as much as she wants, let her feed when she needs, as much as she needs. Of course I make sure she's sleeping/feeding enough for her age, but I'm not going to put pressure on my baby to feed perfectly every 3 hours on the dot and nap at an exact time everyday! Babies are human, right? We have days when we want to snooze more, or days we want to eat more, days we want to cry, days we have no appetite, or days we are super energetic.. the list goes on!! As long as on the whole she is getting everything she needs, is healthy and happy.. isn't that whats most important?!
Anyway.. rant over, back to the nap time details Beth! (Bloody hell I could ramble for England!)
What I've also found with her naps is that it really varies depending on what we are doing during the day. If I am out and about a lot, either running errands, dashing off to appointments or shopping, that will probably be when Maddison will happily sleep for a couple of hours in the pram - It's true what they say about motion, like being in the car, it completely settles her off to sleep no problem! But if I am at home during the day (or out but not actually waking around lots with the Pram) she will barely snooze more than her typical 30 minute power naps!
Unlike our bedtime routine, I'm not too fussed about having specific times for her day naps. It's really hard to plan anything during the day and go off to classes or meet friends for coffee etc. if I am restricting myself and having to stay home for a specific time everyday! Personally for my life, that just won't work!! But when I am home I have tried a couple of times to get her to nap in her big cot in her room. My idea behind this is, when the time comes, the transition from crib in our room to cot on her own room, won't as overwhelming or too much of a strange adjustment for her!
My only tip that I have discovered works for mums that are struggling to get their little ones at nap (at all!) is try going for a walk with baby in the pram? Or go for a drive, or stick baby in a bouncer (if you have one!) because the motion is the only guaranteed thing that gets Maddison to snooze, so it might help your little one too?! If nothing else, putting baby in the pram and getting out the house will make you feel so much better! It does for me - you can't beat fresh air!
NOTE: this is MY personal thoughts and feelings, you don't have to agree with me, and if you have a baby that has a perfect nap time routine.. good for you! Everyone's lifestyle is different and every baby is different! There are no set rules!
So there you have it! I think I've now covered all things sleep related! Nighttime.. great! Daytime.. allllll over the place! But that's life - haha!
I would love to hear your thoughts on nap time! Do you have a great routine sussed out already? Or are you all over the place going with the flow like me? Where does your little one sleep best? I'd love to hear your stories! Either comment below or contact me via the Social page! Love x
I think this has to be my most requested blog posts and I get so so many questions about the details of Maddie's bedtime routine/sleeping patterns! The length of our babies nap time or bed time, is a topic we can't seem to get enough of as parents! And I think that's because there is such a wide variety of combinations and patterns that babies have! Every baby is different, some sleep a lot, some barely sleep at all, and it can be an absolute nightmare for parents that are surviving on little to no sleep! So of course we want to share our various tips and tricks to help one another out!! Because this is a BIG topic and I have gone into a lot of detail for you, this part 1 will be about our bedtime routine and sleep pattern, then I will follow up with a part 2 about the daytime naps! (Otherwise this post will go on FOREVER..!!)
I do feel very lucky that Maddison is naturally a sleepy baby, we've never had a real problem with it! Week 1 was a bit all over the place, as we were adjusting to life with a baby and getting to know our little girl. I think the longest she would sleep for was about 4 hours at a time in that first week. But 10 weeks on, Maddison now sometimes sleeps for 8-9 hours straight! Which is something I never expected to be blessed with. I thought full nights sleep were something I would never see again for a good decade becoming a mother?!
One of the biggest things that I think helps distinguish when it's time for bed for Maddie, is we have a clear bedtime routine. I am very vigilant with this and make sure we do the same pattern, every night, at the same time, to the best of our ability - obviously life sometimes gets in the way of this! But here is a breakdown of our current routine and timings...
Bath time (around 9pm)
We bath Maddie every night and have been doing since she was 4 weeks old. No matter what mood she's been in during the day, she is always happy and inquisitive splashing round in the water and bubbles! I really do feel like it helps her calm down and relax from the day.
Cuddle & chat (around 9:15pm)
We then wrap her up and have a quick cuddle while shes still in the towel (keeping her warm!) Then we all lay down on our bed and sit there chatting away to her for a little. We often get some of the most adorable noises and smiles out of her!!
Baby Massage (around 9:20pm)
Next, it's back into her bedroom, pop her on the changing table and get a nappy on quickly before any accidents happen - haha! I then do a little baby massage on Maddie's legs and feet, which she absolutely adores!! Now... I've not officially learnt about baby massage, and if an expert were to watch me, they'd probably say I'm doing it wrong!! We were given some cream for Maddie's dry skin at 6 weeks old, and when applying it before bed I kind of just made up a little massage routine... and she loved it!! So I've just kept doing ever since, and again I think it's something that she now relates to as "it's bedtime now".
Final feed (around 9:25pm)
Dressed in her sleep suit and scratch mitts, (we only put mitts on her at night - again which I believe helps her distinguish its bedtime!) I take her back into our bedroom to where her crib is, sit on my bed and give her the final feed.. Maddison used to feed from me and fall asleep on the boob, so once she'd settled and drifted off to sleep I would then carefully put her down in the crib and tuck her in. However because of my milk struggle, for the last feed before bed we now use formula to ensure she has had a good big feed! She then burps, and I pop her down in the crib.
Self settle to sleep (between 9:30-9:45pm)
Once tucked up in her crib, I give her the dummy as she loves suckling for comfort, and I then go downstairs and let her settle herself to sleep. Now this is something we've only been doing for the past 3 weeks. I tried it once as a one off to see if she would settle (as she was just wiggling like mad in my arms and kept getting distracted!!) 10 minutes later.. she was sound asleep! So, I tired it again the next night.. and it worked again! So now it's something I do every night and she's very good at just letting herself drift off to sleep alone now! I'm pleased we've managed to get her to do this, as I'm hoping it'll make the transition into her big cot in her own room easier if she's already used to settling on her own!!
At first I used to worry that 9:30pm was a bit of a late bedtime for a newborn, but it just works for us! As she gets older I plan to sneak that time forward little by little ready for when she's a toddler. I really do feel that bedtime should be whatever works best for you and your baby!! There is no set bedtime, as babies always have their own ideas and you just can't force it!! And there is no set routine to follow, it's your routine that suits your lifestyle and your little one. The routine described above is just what we've now established and seems to work for us all to have a good nights sleep.. I'm definitely not saying you have to agree/copy me!! I think (unfortunately) that's the biggest problem with parenting, there will always be that person who has an opinion on what you do and thinks they are an expert.. It's important to ignore those internet "mum police" who love to tell you that you are doing something "wrong" rather than actually trying to help!! You know your baby!! As long as they are happy and healthy, you do it YOUR way!
Maddison's normal sleeping pattern is 6 hours straight, so she'll wake around 4:30am, I'll change her and she'll have a quick half an hour feed on the boob, where she will fall back asleep! I then (carefully) pop her back into the crib for another 2-3 hours, so we are then normally up for the day between 7-8am. However, we have had a fair few nights now when she sleep straight through for 8-9 hours without the feed!! The first time that happened, I woke up so so panicked that I'd missed her in the night and slept through her crying - it felt so weird!! It's very rare that we have a night when she doesn't stick to her sleeping pattern.. I think maybe only once in the past 5 weeks has she strayed from her pattern and woken up twice during the night? Also I personally would never wake her up to feed.. My thinking is, if she's hungry, she'll wake. And if she doesn't then she clearly needed the snooze! But of course I will ensure she feeds enough during the day to make up for the hours at night. She's still putting on weight fine, so she must be feeding enough despite missing the nighttime feed!
Anyway this is what has worked for us! But as stated above, Maddison is a sleepy baby anyway and has a very relaxed temperament! So maybe that helps? I don't know! But I'm certainly making the most of the hours of sleep we are getting now, before the teething properly kicks in or we take a sudden turn and she decides to become a night owl!!
Stay tuned for Part 2, when I will talk about Maddison's day time naps.. which I have to say is a VERY different story to nighttime - haha!!
What are your nighttime tips? Is there anything you've found that particularly helps your little one sleep? I'd love to know! Feel free to comment below or message me via the social page! Love x
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