I think it's safe to say that becoming a parent, you go through a lot of changes. Not only physically but mentally and logistically too!! Things that used to seem such a big deal, suddenly become so insignificant once you have a little one! You really do learn what's important in life and what you can just let go and laugh at!
Below are 12 things that I've come to realise since becoming a mummy...
1. Life doesn't stop
This one I feel very passionate about. I have always wanted and loved kids, and I really couldn't understand why some people say "oh I want to live before having kids", or "your life stops once you have kids"... well ladies and gentlemen, I call bullshit! I am here, I'm a mummy, and I've never felt more alive!! Your life is only just beginning! Children bring whole new experiences and opportunities to life! You CAN still "live" and do things for yourself! (It may just require more planning haha!)
2. Dry shampoo is everything
Yup.. I've been there, day 9 of rocking a mum-bun and your hair is so super greasy, but there is just no time to wash it (as per..) so what do you do? Dry shampoo obviously?! And there is no shame in that!!
3. Stretch marks are beautiful
When I was a teenager I used to be so scared of stretch marks, I was always paranoid and checking my body for them. I don't even know why?! Now post-baby, I have them on my belly and my thighs and I LOVE them! They are a reminder of the amazing journey I went through to get my baby! I would take a million stretch marks for my girl! So embrace them ladies, they are all part of the journey and you should be proud!
4. It's okay to have a bad day
Motherhood is hard. And some days when baby is cranky, you are tired, there's endless washing to do.. you just want to sit there and cry.. and that's okay!! Crying is healthy! Not everyday has to be perfect and it's fine to admit that some days, you just don't have your shit together! But you learn from bad days! So if I'm struggling, I tell myself 'it's okay because tomorrow is a new day!'
5. A new kind of love
The love you have for your children is INCREDIBLE and it is honestly like no other love you have ever experienced, and it feels amazing!!!! You know what I mean mamas?!
6. Don't compare
This is such an important one to me. I've learnt not to compare myself as a parent or my baby to anyone else's!! Every baby is different, develops differently, has their own personality.. so why stress myself out?! As long as she is healthy and happy, that is all that matters! And as a parent, just because I can't afford the most flashy stroller, or designer baby clothes.. who cares?! That doesn't define me as a mum! I know deep down I am giving my girl everything I can! It's so unhealthy to compare.
7. It isn't selfish to have some "me time"
Okay, so "me time" might be a lot less nowadays.. but if I don't have that time, how can I be truly myself? It's okay to have a coffee without baby, to have 10 minutes in bed reading, or to go get your nails done! I definitely feel a lot healthier for it. I know I can give Maddison the full attention/care she needs when I am positive and refreshed mentally! And that comes from that little bit of peace, that odd treat and clear head space! It's definitely not selfish to give yourself a little treat every now and then! You deserve it! Being a mum is tough!
8. Everyone has an opinion
The hard part about being a mum, is no matter how well you do, there will always be someone who will want to criticise you.. it's sad but true! As long as you know you are doing whats best for your little one and you know they are safe and well.. what more can you do! Being a first time mum, I probably learn something new everyday with Maddie. Yes experience can help, but remember that every baby is different, and there is a difference to constructive help and criticism.
9. Sleep is so precious
Why oh why, did I neglect the luxury of sleep and the opportunity to have power naps whenever I liked!! I know I am blessed with a baby who sleeps well.. but being a mummy is still full on and tough! So I have learnt, when I do have the chance to sleep.. I NEED TO DO IT!!
10. Go with the flow
These babies like to run the show, and seem to always work to their own schedule! The nightmare of trying to get out of the house to an appointment, meet-up or class.. I am always allowing literally double the amount of time, just in case something goes tits-up! But that's life!! Maddison likes to do things her way.. and I've just learnt to go with it!
11. The microwave is a life saver
Coffees gone cold. Microwave it. Dinners gone cold. Microwave it. Need I say more!!
12. Everyday is a blessing
Seeing as last week was miscarriage and baby loss awareness week, I feel so so grateful for having a easy pregnancy, birth and delivering a healthy baby! I can't even imagine how traumatic and heartbreaking it must feel to loose your child, or any loved one for that matter! Life truly is a blessing and you never know what's around the corner. So live everyday to the fullest, love and cherish every moment. Sending love and strength to anyone who has ever suffered a loss - you are never alone,
I'm sure there is a least one of my list that others can relate to hehe!! Anything particular you've learnt or discovered since becoming a mummy? Oh and by the way.. if you're reading this.. you're doing great!! Lots of love x
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