Well I think I've made it. I've managed to get everyone's birthdays/events and outings done and out of the way with no interruptions or early signs from baby! Phew! At the weekend Josh and I took my mummy to the beautiful Ellenborough Park Hotel for afternoon tea as her birthday treat/present this year... (it's her actual birthday today – Happy Birthday Mummy!)
I originally had the idea of taking her to London for afternoon tea, as from my years living there I know London a lot better than Oxfordshire still. However, realising I'm about to pop and after how shattered I was taking Josh to London for his birthday a few weeks ago... it all seemed a bit risky! So I hoped onto google and found Ellenborough Park! (Which is actually in Cheltenham not Oxfordshire but is close to my mums house so it worked!)
There's something special about having new experiences or trips for birthday gifts rather than actual physical presents! I know when Josh took me to Madrid for my birthday last year, yes that money could've bought me a another designer bag, but it was just so much more special creating those memories which we will both cherish forever! Also I'd bought my mum really expensive pretty gifts for the last few years so thought it would be a nice change! I know afternoon tea is something that my mum hasn't done very often either, there is something really satisfying about it.. it is just so nice and relaxing!
Again, Happy birthday Mummy! Thank you for being the most inspirational and amazing women, you are such a role model to me and my sisters. I really hope I can live up to how great you are, and be the best mummy I can be to my little girl when she is here!
Any afternoon tea recommendations you have I would love to know! I always love finding new places to visit and explore, especially when they do awesome gluten free options! Comment below or contact me via the social page!
A week ago today it was Josh's birthday! So I decided to take him to London for the day and I had booked us a surprise lunch at Babylon Restaurant at The Roof Gardens in Kensington. I just thought how lovely it would be to enjoy lunch with views of London's rooftops/skyline and pretty greenery (how romantic of me!) followed by a bit of shopping and just enjoying the change of scenery!
We were pretty tired to start off the day, both of us ended up sleeping on the train going to London because we had had our Baby Brunch the day before (click here to read about our Baby Brunch). First stop in London, was coffee and a toilet for me! Then I took Josh to the Nike shop to buy some trainers as one of his presents! Josh is also a personal trainer so he goes through a lot of trainers!! After that we made our way down to the Kensington/Chelsea area from Oxford Street ready for lunch!
It wasn't the sunniest of days.. but the weather was on our side as despite being scheduled to rain alllllllll day it didn't! - phew! I was so worried when I saw the forecast as continual rain that it would ruin the day, knowing I'd booked for us to be on a roof garden! The food was gorgeous, the service was fast and every member of staff were polite and friendly. The views were amazing! You almost didn't feel like you were in London! Oh and the mocktails were reallyyyyy good, so despite being pregnant I didn't feel like I missed out having a nice celebratory drink! If anyone is thinking of somewhere different and special to go in London, I would highly recommend it!
Now with full satisfied tummy's, we thought we'd head up to Harrods to do a bit of shopping. We decided to walk as the weather was holding out and we thought it would be a nice way to let the food go down... (bad idea!) Looking at google maps, it seemed like an easy straight forward walk, which is was, but what we assumed it would be around a 20 minute walk, was more like 45 minutes! I know this doesn't sound like a horrifically long walk, but when 9 months pregnant and needing the loo every hour.. the long straight road to Harrods seemed never ending! I should have known better having lived in London (I'm blaming my pregnancy brain!) By the time we got there my feet felt so hot and swollen in my shoes, I hadn't suffered with swollen feet up till then so I had completely underestimated what it would feel like! We both were desperate for a drink, so we headed straight to Laduree for iced coffees and a little sweet macaroon treat! Feeling recovered we did get a little bit of retail therapy done, but it wasn't long till we thought we'd rather skip the chaos that is London 'rush hour' and head on home.
Looking back, I think I may have not planned such a long day or walked quite as much if I'd have known what it feels like to be heavily pregnant!! I hadn't considered when I booked it 2 months ago, how swollen my feet would get, or how tired I would get! On the train home, I put my legs up over Josh's lap to try and drain some of the blood and swelling, I must of looked like a hot pregnant mess haha!! Think it's safe to say.. I found my limit and I have accepted I won't be going on another outing to London till I've had my baby girl! But I am pleased I was able to take Josh out for a lovely day trip and treat him for his birthday.
It's always that question of when to start slowing down in pregnancy... when should I just calm down and rest? When to stop working? When to scale back on how much you do in one day, and what is TOO much to be doing when 36 weeks pregnant?! But you don't want to stop too early, otherwise you get bored!! It's one of those things that I think we know deep down when enough is enough, as we know our own bodies and how much activity and busyness we can cope with!! I get pretty fed up of people telling me to 'take it easy' or 'look after myself', of course I'm going to look after myself, of course I'm going to listen to my body and of course my baby comes first! I never fully realised till being pregnant myself, how much judgement there is in pregnancy, people always feel the need to comment! Guess it's just one of those things that is different for every women and we all have our limits.. and I now know I've reached mine (in terms of how long to be on my feet for in one day anyway!)
I'd love to hear your thoughts/feelings on when you knew to 'calm down' in your pregnancy and get some before the little ones arrive! Comment below or contact me via the social page!
Yesterday morning Josh and I made the most of a rare lie in as it was bank holiday Monday! We were sat in bed reminiscing the beginning of our relationship, which consisted of a lot of spontaneous dinner dates, drinks, day outings and adventures! Obviously very soon when the baby arrives, its going to take a bit more planning to go off on trips and outings – correct me if I'm wrong mums! I guess I'll know for sure when baby gets here! Not only that, but the realisation that money which would've gone on treats, is going to be needed for nappies! (Which may I add are more expensive than I first realised!) So we sat and expressed how we really want to make the most of the last few weeks we have together before two become three!
I know it sounds silly saying making the most of “time for two” because we live together, work together, and are pretty much glued together. You'd think that we have plenty of time together! But when it's spontaneous and different from your usual routine, it does feel special, now matter how fancy or far away it may be. Obviously we are slightly limited in what we can do, with me being pretty heavily pregnant now! I can't travel too far without needing the loo, I get tired really easily, and I think I'm starting to nest.. as I just love my home and own bed right now!! But the odd dinner out, or brunch (as we are big fans of brunch!) or a day trip to a city nearby for some shopping, is just the right amount that I can physically cope with, and to feel like we've had some good quality time together.
Despite being very busy in these last 6 weeks leading up to our due date, we are really trying to make the most of being “us”. I think more than the fancy holidays or dinners out with not a care in the world as to what time we get home.. it's the little things we'll miss. For example, Josh and I always end up sitting in bed chatting about anything and everything for a good 30 minutes before actually falling asleep, which we won't be able to do with a baby sleeping in a crib next to us! Maybe we could whisper? Who am I kidding, we'll probably be up all night anyway so will be able to talk every two hours when she wakes! (Oh god...!)
Having quality couple time together, when we're not working, or discussing and planning baby stuff, just focusing on each other, is something we both feel very strongly about. Not only now, but we also hope we can continue when the baby arrives.. although it may be a while till we figure out when or how to do that! Will have to keep you all posted on expectations vs reality! Don't get me wrong.. we couldn't be more excited and over the moon about having a baby (this was planned after-all!) But it is scary knowing that your whole routine and relationship that you have always known is going to change, as there's another little person to consider and who takes priority! I'm sure no matter what, we'll always find a way of making time for each other. We are best friends as well as partners, how could we not!
Any tips from parents about how you make time for yourselves I'd love to hear! Feel free to comment in the box below, or contact me via the social page!
Today has been one of those lovely chilled Sundays, where I have really enjoyed myself without over doing it and getting exhausted! Starting with the necessary lie in on a Sunday, (as I have quite early and busy starts on a Saturday being a Personal Trainer,) I then chilled on the sofa watching a little catch up TV with Josh, breakfast and a good cuppa! We're going through a phase of loving TV dramas, so any good recommendations let me know! I then glammed myself up, which is always fun getting to dress in normal clothes, yes.. even when pregnant (read my post about dressing my baby bump here), given that 90% of the week I live in stretchy gym gear. Once dressed and ready to face the world I met an old client for lunch in Summetown. This is one of the benefits of my job, because you work so closely with people on a 1-2-1 basis, I find I have the most incredible friendships with my clients. We sometimes talk about the craziest and funniest moments, or personal dilemmas we are currently facing, yet can always snap into training mode and take direction! So we had a lovely old gossip over a light lunch and coffee (decaf for me obviously...) I can imagine it was such a shock for her seeing the size of my pregnant belly, given the last time we met was December and I wasn't showing any sign of a bump!! After lunch, I then popped around the shops as I had a few bits and pieces I needed to pick up, before coming home to the wifey duties of washing and cleaning/organising.
A simple Sunday, you would say. Nothing overly complicated. But it does feel so good to get up and out of the house and do things, despite being very pregnant and tired a lot of the time! Any other pregnant ladies agree with me? Yes, it's a relief to get home and put your feet up, but it is so rewarding doing so knowing you've accomplished something in your day! I know I'm sounding a bit like a typical Personal Trainer being uber positive and motivational.. sorry! But it's true!
It's days like today that make me realise how important it is getting up and out the house, especially in these last few weeks leading up to the birth of my little one. Just doing something nice for myself. I'm assuming it's going to be very difficult to be spontaneous, or at least will be for the first few months till I get a routine going with my baby... to do things like organise days out or meet up with friends and family, as I have no idea how I'll be feeling – most likely exhausted! And no idea how cooperative my baby will be! I'm sure they'll be days as a first time mummy when I think of something fun to do, but when it comes round to it, I am no way in the mood or have the energy to do so!
Personally, I think in the final countdown weeks of pregnancy, as nice as it is to stay home, snuggle in pyjamas and nest... I don't believe it's healthy to do everyday mentally, even though our bodies are going through so much physically. I know for me even before I got pregnant, if I stay in for too many days in a row I loose the plot, cabin fever kicks in and I feel like I have no purpose outside the comfort of my home! Especially if I'm going to be spending the first couple of weeks with a newborn at home, it is even more important and good to keep going out as much as I can now! It can be as little as a walk round the park, a coffee date, getting your nails done, or a little bit of shopping. Just something that means you need to set an alarm, get up with a purpose, dress up, feel nice and enjoy yourself!!
Lets be realistic here, I am no way saying that expectant mummy's should go out everyday in the final few weeks of pregnancy and go on a crazy adventure... it's just not going to happen. I'm sure in the last 3 weeks before my due date, (once I am officially off on maternity leave and have more time on my hands) there are going to be make-up-less, top-knot, tracksuit days. But I will make sure those days are balanced with days where I do make plans and get myself out the house for some fresh air. I feel lucky that I am having a summer baby, so thankfully I have the sunnier and warmer weather on my side (unless as usual its raining in England!) I can imagine the thought of going for a long walk impossible if you're 8 months pregnant in the winter months and it's freezing outside is a lot more challenging!
So my thought of the day, to help me through the final 8 weeks of being pregnant.. get out, and do something for yourself. Despite feeling huge, even if I feel tired, as mentally I know I will always feel better afterwards.
Obvious disclaimer moment – this is all my PERSONAL thoughts and beliefs. I am by no means preaching for every pregnant women out there, every women is different, has a different journey when pregnant and I am not a therapist. But if my motivational, rambling, thought of the day can help anyone struggling, pregnant or not pregnant, make the most of their day and get out and feel good about themselves, then I'm happy I could've helped! Hope you have had a great weekend, any feedback or comments leave below or contact me via the social page!
Welcome to Biff & Baba! I am very excited to be publishing my first post on my Personal Lifestyle & Mummy Blog! As my first post, I just wanted to expand in a little more detail on the About Me section, and give you all some more information as to who I am and what content you will be seeing on this page...
Who Am I?
My name is Bethany and I'm living in Oxfordshire in the UK with my boyfriend Josh and we currently have a little princess cooking away in my tummy!
My background is dance (primarily ballet), and I started dancing when I was 2 and a half years old. When I was 10 years old I decided that I wanted to take it seriously and dance professionally, so started Saturday classes in London at the Royal Ballet School as an associate. When I was 16 I moved to London to attend a full-time vocational dance school; Central School of Ballet, where I not only trained 6 days a week, I also achieved a First Class BA Hons degree in Professional Dance and Performance. After graduating, I was blessed with the opportunity to dance with Matthew Bourne's New Adventures Company, and toured the UK performing in his stage version of Tim Burton's classic 'Edward Scissorhands'.
It was after this, I decided I needed a change from dance. Although it will always be a big part of me and I learnt so much from it, I needed a change. I had always taken a big interest in the Health & Fitness industry, being a big "foodie" and loved the buzz you got from a good workout! I decided I wanted to become a Personal Trainer, to help motivate, educate and build peoples confidence and self-love. I have now been a fully qualified PT for nearly 2 years!
Life is about to change again as I am soon to become a mummy! Which I am completely over the moon about and is something I've always known I was meant to be! Starting a family was always something Josh and I wanted to do and talked about since we first got together. We are due mid-June and are counting down the weeks!
Whats to come?
The main reason why I wanted to start a blog is because I wanted a space where I could completely express my thoughts, feelings and document my life, especially at this most precious time becoming a mummy! I've always been a creative person and I've always liked the idea of having a blog, but it was actually Josh who encouraged me to do so. I am by no means a writer, and I am in actual fact very dyslexic! So please do excuse me if my grammar isn't 100% on top form, the language will be very chatty and it's more about the content of what I am writing about. I'm now at that stage in my life where I feel I have the confidence to put myself out there and not worry what people may think or say. This is about me, for me and anyone who fancies having a read! I'm planning on doing two blog posts a week.
So the main section of this blog will be my Lifestyle. This will include my day-to-day comings and goings, whether that be trips as a family, anything I bought recently or checking out a new coffee spot! I will also write about my current outfits I like; as anyone who knows me will tell you, I have always been a shopaholic and love my designers and fashion - but by no means am I a fashion blogger! I think this will be interesting to see how my style changes or develops, with the new factor of "is it mummy practical?"...
Baby section will probably end up being my favourite category to write in! It will be everything pregnancy, mummy and baby related. This is something completely new to me, so will be like my diary as I am discovering and overcoming the challenges of being a first time parent! From pregnancy, labour, breastfeeding, to sleeping, baby clothes and products, teething etc. as I go through and experience day by day of my baby growing! No judging please every mummy, baby and journey is different!!
The final section will be Health & Fitness, which as I mentioned before is my current profession. This will include a few workout tips, healthy recipes, my favourite workout clothes and more! I am Gluten Intolerant, so all my food posts will be gluten free, and I am always looking for new places that have a great variety of gluten free options available on their menu! The fitness side of this section will probably pick up more once I have given birth! And will document me getting my body back to my normal, strong self!
As I said before, this is a Personal Lifestyle & Mummy Blog, about me and my life, all the views expressed on here are my own and I do not expect everyone to agree with me! More than happy to answer comments and am open to blog post suggestions! Also feel free to follow my other social media accounts found on the Social page!
Thanks for reading! x